Tough Love Time. One of the main things that will keep you from being honest and accountable on this journey is making excuses. We make excuses because we don’t want to be judged. We make excuses because we don’t want to face the truth. We make excuses because we don’t have the answers. There are so many reasons why we make excuses on this weight loss journey.
The question is: “Do you want to make excuses or do you want to make progress? Are the reasons you want to lose weight and get healthy bigger than the reasons behind your excuses?”
Here are some common excuses;
- “I don’t want to get skinny.” Then don’t. Most of the black women I know are in NO danger of losing their God-given curves. Can I get an Amen? You are in control of how much weight you will lose. Nobody will make you lose more weight against your will. It doesn’t work like that. Don’t let your love of curves stop you from getting healthier and more fit if that’s what you ultimately want to do.
- “Eating healthy is too expensive.” People go bankrupt paying for medical bills. If you needed medicine to save your life and it was very expensive, you would likely try to get your hands on it despite the cost. The question we have to ask ourselves is, “What is the real expense to our health if we are obese or eating lots of unhealthy food?” We spend money on what we believe is important and on what we value. Buy the healthiest food you can afford and invest in yourself. Food is fuel for the body.
- “I don’t know where to start.” With the internet, thousands of books, weight loss commercials coming on all the time and articles with conflicting advice… I know it can be overwhelming to find answers. The great news is that there is tons of reputable information to help you started. Start by doing research on the basics: Healthy eating and exercise. For example: Figure out why you should cut down on fast food, fried food and sweets. Need a workout? Start with walking or using free workout videos on Youtube. There you go…an easy start. Build from there by doing the work of figuring out what works for you. Get a nutritionist or dietitian if you can. Buy a book on nutrition. Hire a personal trainer or buy some workout DVDs. Take action.
- “I need help” What do you really mean by that? Figure out what help you need and seek it out. Do you need medical, financial or emotional support? Don’t just stay stuck in need and let lack beat you. Get clear on what you need so that you aren’t just chasing fads or jumping from solution to solution.
Ladies, we have to do this for ourselves. No one can lose weight for you and excuses won’t take off a pound. Ditch the excuses!